Mini- Course:
How To HAVE “The Conversation”
You’re not imagining it.
And you’re not asking for too much.
If you’re carrying the mental load in your relationship —
the planning, the tracking, the remembering, the worrying —
this course was made for you.
Not to teach you how to explain yourself better.
Not to convince your partner to finally “get it.”
Not to turn your relationship into a project.
But to help you name what’s actually happening,
understand why it’s so hard to talk about,
and learn how to invite real partnership
without burning yourself out in the process.
This is an audio course you can listen to while living your life.
No worksheets required. No perfect communication needed.
WHO THIS COURSE IS FOR
This course is for you if:
You feel mentally exhausted even when you’re “not doing anything”
You’re tired of being the one who notices, plans, and remembers
You’ve tried talking about the mental load before — and it didn’t go well
You’re in a mixed-neurotype relationship (ADHD, autistic, trauma-impacted, or highly sensitive nervous systems)
You’re in a queer or gender-expansive partnership and don’t fit traditional role narratives
You want partnership — not micromanaging, nagging, or silent resentment
This course is not about blaming your partner.
And it’s not about blaming yourself.
It’s about understanding the system you’re both inside of —
and learning how to change it without collapsing.
Ready to have “the conversation” with your partner about sharing your mental load?
$175 USD
WHY TALKING ABOUT THE MENTAL LOAD FEELS SO HARD
Most people think these conversations fail because:
they didn’t say it clearly enough
they got too emotional
they picked the wrong time
But that’s not actually the problem.
The problem is that mental load conversations activate nervous systems, not logic.
They touch:
exhaustion
fairness
safety
old wounds about being unseen or unsupported
So even well-intentioned conversations can turn into:
defensiveness
shutdown
over-explaining
giving up
This course teaches you how to work with nervous systems —
yours and your partner’s — instead of fighting them.
WHAT MAKES THIS COURSE DIFFERENT
Most resources focus on:
chore charts
task division
productivity systems
Those can help later —
but they don’t work if the foundation isn’t there.
This course focuses on:
mental load (not just tasks)
ownership (not “helping”)
understanding before solutions
small experiments instead of ultimatums
self-leadership instead of self-abandonment
And it’s designed specifically for:
ADHD brains
mixed-neurotype couples
queer relationships
people who are already tired
I’ll Help You
Name the real problem — without blaming yourself or your partner.
You’ll learn how to clearly articulate what the mental load actually is (and why chores or “helping more” don’t fix it), understand how neurotype differences and capacity shape who ends up carrying it, and see how invisible defaults form even in queer and well-intentioned relationships. You stop questioning yourself and start seeing the issue as a systems problem — not a personal failure.
Have the conversation in a way that doesn’t blow up or shut down.
You’ll learn what makes this conversation feel so intense, how to approach it from a grounded place instead of urgency, and how to invite the discussion with timing and language that lowers defensiveness. You’ll also learn how to respond to pushback, confusion, or shutdown without over-explaining, escalating, or giving up.
Move from understanding to change — without becoming the manager of it.
You’ll learn how to shift from “helping” to real shared ownership, propose small experiments instead of overwhelming overhauls, and define ownership in a way that actually lightens your mental load. You leave with a path toward sustainable change that doesn’t rely on you tracking, reminding, or carrying it all alone.
COURSE FORMAT
This is an 8 part, audio-only course, made with the busy parent in mind.
Listen while walking, driving, folding laundry, or lying down.
Pause, rewind, or repeat as often as you need.
No video. No homework. No pressure to “do it right.”
Each lesson builds gently on the last, with:
clear explanations
real-life examples
nervous-system-friendly pacing
permission to go slow
WHAT’S INCLUDED
✔️ 8 audio lessons (approx. 7-11 minutes each)
✔️ 76 page workbook
✔️ A framework you can return to whenever things feel heavy again
✔️ Language you can use without turning into the household manager
THIS COURSE IS ESPECIALLY HELPFUL IF…
You’re the default planner, tracker, or “project manager” at home
Your partner isn’t malicious — just overwhelmed, confused, or wired differently
You want to stop having the same conversation over and over
You want to feel less alone before asking for more support
WHAT THIS COURSE IS NOT.
This course is not:
A demand that your partner change overnight
A gendered “default parent” narrative
A productivity system disguised as relationship advice
A lecture on communication skills
Therapy (though it’s therapy-informed)
It’s a relational education course designed to help you breathe again.
Imagine being able to say what you carry
without immediately bracing for conflict.
Imagine understanding why this is so hard —
and realizing you’re not broken.
Imagine approaching the conversation
from clarity instead of urgency.
That’s what this course is designed to support.
If you’ve been carrying the mental load,
your exhaustion makes sense.
You don’t need to try harder.
You don’t need to explain better.
You don’t need to collapse yourself to keep the peace.
You deserve partnership —
and there is a way to move toward it
without losing yourself along the way.