Free E-Guide- Grief Mental Load Spreadsheet

The Grief Mental Load Spreadsheet

When someone dies, the world expects you to keep functioning and become the project manager of loss.

A simple, compassionate spreadsheet that helps you track what needs to happen, share the load, and protect your nervous system—without turning grief into another job.

✅ For the person doing the remembering
✅ For families trying to coordinate
✅ For anyone whose brain is offline but responsibilities are not

The problem

If you’re grieving, you’re not “disorganized.”
You’re carrying an invisible workload that most people never see:

• calling family and repeating the same heartbreaking updates

• coordinating rituals, preferences, and opinions

• managing paperwork, logistics, and deadlines

• caring for a surviving parent (and their anxiety, language barriers, or cultural needs)

• feeding people, arranging childcare, showing up to work anyway

• trying to remember what you already did—and what you’re forgetting

Grief impacts memory, focus, and decision-making.
And still… the world hands you a clipboard.

This is support for the part of you that is trying to hold it all together.

This spreadsheet helps you:

• get everything out of your head (so you’re not tracking it in your body)

• see the full grief workload (not just the obvious tasks)

• assign ownership so you’re not the default manager

• reduce repeat questions with a single shared source of truth

• identify what can wait vs what must happen now

• make space for grief—not just productivity