Get the Fair Play Spreadsheet (Free)
A simple, clear tracker to help you see who owns what — and rebalance the invisible load.
What this download is
This spreadsheet helps you map the real work of running a home — not just chores, but the remembering, planning, tracking, and following through that quietly drains one person over time.
If you’re the one who’s constantly:
noticing what needs to happen
keeping the mental tabs open
managing appointments, supplies, logistics, school stuff, and “future problems”
…this tool will help you name it clearly and start redistributing it.
Who this is for
This is for you if:
you’re tired of being the default parent / default manager
your partner “helps,” but you still feel alone in the responsibility
conversations about the mental load turn into defensiveness or shutdown
you want a fair, explicit system — not another argument
you’re in a mixed neurotype relationship and need clarity (not vague expectations)
Why this matters
When one person carries the mental load, it doesn’t just create stress — it creates emotional debt: the slow accumulation of loneliness, resentment, and distrust that builds when responsibility isn’t shared.
This spreadsheet gives you data + language so you’re not trying to “prove” your experience in the middle of a fight. You’re building a system.
What You’ll Get Inside
A plug-and-play Fair Play spreadsheet to:
list home + family responsibilities by domain
track ownership (not just “who did it once”)
clarify what “done” means so standards don’t become fights
identify overload patterns and invisible labor hotspots
create a starting point for a calmer, more productive conversation