Welcome, You’re in the right place.
If you’ve been carrying the invisible load for too long…
If you’ve tried chore charts, calendars, apps, conversations that go nowhere —
If you’ve read books, listened to podcasts, or begged your partner to “just notice more”…
You’re not broken.
Your relationship isn’t broken.
Your system is.
And for mixed neurotype couples, the system you need is different.
What makes The Spacious Reset
Different?
Most conversations about household responsibilities focus on tasks—who’s doing dishes, bedtime, laundry, meal planning.
But the real strain comes from the mental load:
remembering things before they’re urgent
planning ahead
tracking moving parts
monitoring emotional needs
managing “what ifs” and “don’t forgets”
being the household’s default system manager
In mixed neurotype couples, these responsibilities often land unevenly—not because of laziness or indifference, but because executive functioning, sensory thresholds, emotional processing, and planning capacities vary dramatically across neurotypes.
The Spacious Reset™ teaches couples how to bridge these differences with compassion, clarity, and structure.
Program Benefits
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Gain Clarity Around the Invisible Load
Together, we’ll map out the mental, emotional, and logistical labor each partner carries—often unconsciously. Couples leave with a clear understanding of what’s happening behind the scenes, why overwhelm builds, and how neurotype differences shape expectations and communication.
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Build a Shared, Actionable Household Plan
Instead of vague conversations about “helping more” or “carrying less,” you’ll co-create a concrete, realistic plan based on each partner’s strengths, capacities, and neurotype.
You’ll learn how to renegotiate tasks without guilt, pressure, shutdowns, or blow-ups—and how to maintain your plan even when life gets busy. -
Strengthen Partnership, Empathy & Trust
This program helps you move from:
“Why don’t you see what I see?” → to → “Oh, this is how your brain works—and this is what mine needs.”
“I feel alone in this.” → to → “We’re in this together.”
You’ll practice new ways to communicate needs, repair quickly, and support each other without blame, criticism, or masking.
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Establish Predictable Routines & Safety NetsCouples often report:
You’ll build routines, supports, and shared agreements that reduce last-minute stress, forgotten tasks, and emotional overload.
This includes:minimum standards of care
clarity around task ownership
weekly sync systems
predictable check-ins
backup plans for stressful weeks or unexpected life disruptions
Your household becomes steadier, calmer, and easier to manage together.
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Reduce Resentment and Break Repeating Cycles
Instead of circling the same arguments about chores, follow-through, or “who cares more,” you’ll begin to see the system—not your partner—as the problem.
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Normalize & Understand Neurodivergent Experiences
Whether one partner lives with ADHD, autism, or simply processes the world differently, this program helps couples understand:
attention differences
sensory needs
executive function challenges
task initiation struggles
masking, burnout, and shutdown
different emotional processing speeds
This understanding makes space for empathy, not judgment—and helps both partners feel seen and respected.
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Create a Shared Vision of What “Fair” Actually Means
Many couples fight about chores because “fairness” is unspoken, assumed, or inherited from childhood.
The reset guides you through defining fairness explicitly — in ways that honor neurodivergence, capacity, season of life, and emotional bandwidth.You’ll leave with a shared family philosophy around labor, care, and partnership that becomes your North Star — one that protects both partners from resentment and prevents the emotional load from silently creeping back.
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Reduce Emotional Reactivity During Mental Load Conversations
Most couples don’t struggle because they don’t care — they struggle because their protectors take over the moment the conversation feels loaded.
Inside the reset, you’ll learn how to spot when protectors flare, how to unblend in real time, and how to return to Self-energy before continuing the conversation.This means fewer arguments, fewer shutdowns, fewer spirals — and far more conversations that feel calm, compassionate, and productive.
Our Program Roadmap
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Goals of this module:
Help you clearly name what the mental load actually is (and what it isn’t), so you can stop arguing about “tasks” and start talking about the real issue.
Shift the conversation away from blame and personal failure toward seeing the invisible systems shaping how responsibility gets carried.
Build shared language and awareness so both partners can finally feel oriented to the same problem.
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Goals of this module:
Understand why the mental load became unbalanced—without turning either partner into the problem.
Identify personal, relational, historical, and neurobiological factors that shape how each of you notices, carries, avoids, or over-functions around responsibility.
Replace moral judgments (“lazy,” “controlling,” “uncaring”) with a deeper understanding of capacity, conditioning, and survival strategies.
Lay the groundwork for equity by redefining partnership as shared ownership rather than delegation or “help.”
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Goals of this module:
Recognize how internal reactions like blame, shutdown, urgency, shame, or avoidance escalate conflict and reinforce the imbalance.
Learn how to interrupt these patterns in real time using the U-Turn, so conversations stop turning into power struggles or emotional collapse.
Build the skill of responding from clarity and self-leadership instead of automatic reactions.
Create emotional relief and repair through small, consistent moments of internal and relational unburdening.
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Goals of this module:
Move from “helping” and reminding toward true ownership that doesn’t rely on one person managing the system.
Learn how responsibility actually flows—from conceptualization to execution—and where breakdowns usually occur.
Establish clear agreements around standards of care so resentment doesn’t build in the gaps.
Design a practical, shared system (using the Fair Play system) for dividing and transferring responsibility in a way that supports learning, competence, and trust.
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Goals of this module:
Build confidence and emotional safety as each partner steps into new or unfamiliar roles.
Practice the new system under real-life stress and learn how to adjust it without collapsing into old patterns.
Develop ongoing communication and repair routines that prevent burnout, resentment, and silent score-keeping.
Integrate the work into daily life so changes feel embodied, sustainable, and relational—not like another project to manage.
What You’ll Walk Away With
By the end of the program, couples typically report:
Dramatically less resentment
Fair and clear division of labor
More predictable rhythms
Less masking, less snapping, fewer shutdowns
Better repair, faster recovery after conflict
Shared leadership of the household
Emotional safety to bring things up
Deepened intimacy and connection
And most importantly:
A sense that you are finally on the same team.
My practice offers a tiered, class-equitable, pay-what-supports-you pricing.
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Redistribution- $500 per 90 minute weekly session
I can easily cover all my essential expenses, including food, housing, and transportation, without financial strain. Any financial stress I experience is unrelated to meeting these basic needs.
Any debt I have does not prevent me from covering essentials.
I have stable employment, or I am a stay-at-home caregiver by choice with a partner who is securely employed, or I do not need to work to maintain my lifestyle.
I live in a home that is comfortable, well-equipped, and spacious enough for my needs.
I own or lease a car and have the option to replace it with a newer model every few years if I choose.
I have reliable access to healthcare whenever necessary.
I maintain savings that I can draw from when needed.
I can purchase new items as desired.
I generally have extra income to spend on luxuries and indulgences.
I’m typically able to choose higher-quality or premium products when I prefer them.
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Full Cost- $400 per 90 minute session
Financially, I consistently cover my basic needs, including food, housing, and transportation, with ease. Any financial stress I experience is typically unrelated to these essentials.
Any debt I have does not interfere with meeting my basic needs.
I have stable employment, or I am a stay-at-home caregiver who chooses not to work outside the home, supported by a partner with steady employment.
I live in a home that is comfortable, adequately spacious, and equipped with modern amenities.
I own or lease a vehicle and can afford its upkeep, or I have chosen a car-free lifestyle.
I generally have access to healthcare when I need it.
I might have some savings available to use during times of financial need.
I can often buy new items, although larger purchases may require some planning.
I occasionally have discretionary income, allowing me to enjoy small luxuries or indulgences each month.
With planning, I can take a vacation every year or two.
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Solidarity- TBD
Financially, I often struggle to meet my basic needs, such as food, housing, and transportation, and I frequently feel stress about covering these essentials.
I may have debt that occasionally prevents me from meeting these needs.
I am unemployed, underemployed, or concerned about my income or the stability of my job.
My housing situation may lack space, comfort, modern conveniences, or stability.
I do not own a car by choice, have limited access to one, or cannot consistently afford gas.
I do not always have access to the healthcare services I need.
I lack savings to rely on when funds are low.
I seldom buy new items and often have to go without.
Discretionary income for indulgences, like new clothes or entertainment, is not typically available to me.
Vacations are generally unaffordable, and taking time off work is a financial strain or poses a risk to my job security.
I qualify for and may rely on some form of public assistance.
Please Keep in Mind
This pricing structure is reflective of the cost per 90 minute session per couple
Please keep in mind that if you opt into a lower price, when you can truly afford a higher price, you are limiting access to those who truly need the gift of financial flexibility. If participating in coaching means making short term sacrifices, having to get creative or asking others for support and does not actually jeopardize your safety, we ask you to use those resources before using the sliding scale. This will limit opportunities for others. Being honest and taking the time to explore your options financially helps us grow in this healing work together.
This is not about doing more.
it’s doing it together.
Your time and energy matter.